http://www.evolutionaryawareness.com/blog/2006/02/14/quantum-relating-from-conflict-to-synergy/
To Share in brief, this is a great example of what we as a family and as individuals are doing NOW.
Here's the part that I thought really needed sharing now:
So here's the clip, do go to the page link above to read the entire article.
Telling the Truth
Telling the truth is not just about not lying.
It is about honoring yourself—expressing what you truly want.
It is about saying what is there for you—what is in the space between you when you look at the other person.
“Of course!” You may say.
But we stop short all the time, don’t we?
Or we share irresponsibly by blaming and shaming.
We do this for several reasons:
1. Fear [that the other person will not like us, leave us, that we will not be liked, etc]
2. Fear that the other will respond in a way that we do not want to deal with [shame, upset, etc—essentially their inability to “hear” our truth]
3. Attachment to the Other or to the relationship and being identified with it as the “I”—feeding in on 1 and 2 above
4. While 2 is a real and valid fear that can be verified in our experience with the person we are in relationship with, numbers one and three are due to a lack of a healthily developed ego which can certainly be overcome.
5. We blame and shame for an often hollow and short term “self-esteem” boost. Not really esteem for the self at all—but pre-rational ego where we indulge in superiority or go for that pound of flesh or that pint of blood. To extract payment for “wrongs” and lose all graciousness and openness. In the end, this is a lose-lose approach.
As in all things related to evolution, it is not a question of whether we experience the above or not—but rather to what degree.
What is fundamentally necessary for telling the truth
is our ability to witness our sensations and emotions
as well as meta-cognition
—that is thinking about our thinking
or about our own process.
It is these skills of self-observation that allow
us to notice when we have internal dissonance
and to notice how telling the truth typically relieves that tension.
We can also share “responsibly”.
That is we can say “I am noticing I am…” upset, etc. rather than the irresponsible “you upset me”, etc.
Additionally, the acceptance that there is no true “one” for us assists in relieving the attachment once noticed.
That there are many and that each relationship we have will be deeper and richer for so long as we are conscious and consciously evolving we are attaining greater depths.
As a result, we can reflect back greater depths.
As a result we have deeper and richer relating.
We often also confuse qualities that we love for the people—collapsing qualities with identity.
The truth, contrary to the Platonic view of love,
is that there is no “other half” for us to find or be completed by.
And to paraphrase Nathaniel Branden,
until one is completely at ease
with the truth that they are ultimately alone
are they ready for healthy romantic love.
Be Well,
Heather
BAD! Kitty learns some pretty good stuff...
You know we are moving, across the country, and while we are putting all of our treasures into boxes, we also have to think about our 'out of the box' investments. Where they should stay, and where to invest them smartly for the future.
One thing is for sure, the economy is rough every where,
So recently while we were taking with our professional Money advisors, they brought up a good point about putting some money into things like bullion coins, gold, silver, platinum... And that sort of thing.
We have been thinking about this a lot and research shows that in proven periods of time of economic failure that these investments held up better than that of blue chip stocks & the like.
Just a little FYI,
for you to think about.
Heather
The Lawn MowerSOLD
Weston Clock Collection, some winders, some plug in, all work in some way, but not well, I used them in an art installation about time.
The set $10.00
BAD! Kitty with News You Can Use!
I will tell you a tale:
Once upon a time there was a young kitty,
she was smart, pretty, and very ambitious.
She went to college and learned all they had to teach,
and then with the weight of the debt
of her learning on her back,
she went out into the world to make her way.
Well, the way is never easy,
and as it happens this kitty had her ups & downs,
had success and then failures.
Made money, lived beyond her means, and found herself
having to re-learn how to make, spend & Invest money
with the help of a good
company
and lots more hard work,
the kitty grew stronger, wiser
and wealthy again
this time
the smart way.
Have a happy Friday!
Heather
BAD! Kitty Art Studio
Quote for the Day!
Happy Monday, anything is possible today.
***
That was a memorable day to me,
for it made great changes in me.
But it is the same with any life.
Imagine one selected daystruck out of it,
and think how different its course would have been.
Pause you who read this, and think a moment
of the long chain of iron or gold,
of thorns of flowers,
that would never have bound you,
but for the formation
of the first link on one memorable day.
Charles Dickens
***
Layers
dimensions
like the thin skin
between onion scales
emergence of
Spirit
within the
veil.
The potatoes
are
soaking, sweet
young peas
await
shelling under
the shade of
old Oak
the breeze
blows
warm wet air
over hot bodies.
Dreams of a future
and knowledge of the
present, understanding from
the dangers of the past.
Onion skins fall
dry on sparse ground
no tears from the hand
of the eye.
I am
Onion.
HuMBle 2006
Fairy world series #4
" No more Gray Days"
" The New One"HUGE and incredible depth...and an AWARD Winner!
Was $775.00
Now $275.00 + shipping
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Read more about the work HERE.
Mars in Retro GradeHUGE WALL Sculpture!
I really can't capture the depth, or the texture well enough for this painting. It is Huge and was made for hanging over my Fireplace in my old home, we had 15 foot ceilings and this fit the space well, plus it has been treated to resist heat and warping, because I made it to hang over a heat source, which is bad...but not in this case! Handmade canvas extra deep and strong.
AWARD WINNER!
36" X 60" X 2" (YES it is 5 feet tall or long however you hang it!!!)
was $3000.00
NOW $450.00 + Shipping!
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" SfearS"When we touch this domain, we are filled with the cosmic force of life itself, we sink our roots deep into the black soil and draw power and being up into ourselves. We know the energy of the numen and are saturated with power and being. We feel grounded, centered, in touch with the ancient and eternal rhythms of life. Power and passion well up like an artesian spring and creativity dances in celebration of life.
~David N. Elkins
This work Was NEVER going to be SOLD, but here it is.
Deep and emotional, with a calming effect at the same time...one of my personal favorites...
An Important First Large BAD! Kitty Work that has has very good critical reviews, and many offers to purchase in the past...
uuummm, I am ready to sell it now!
(it was never for sale so I did not enter it it in many things)
Now $450.00 + Shipping
This is Framed!
52" long by 42" wide and 2" deep Needs a Big Wall to live with!
Email me HERE to make it yours.
"Core"24" X 30 X 2"
Thick Gallery wrapped canvasOils & Sculpted plaster
WAS $775.00
Now $300.00 + shipping
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to read more about the work hit the link below.
http://www.badkittyartstudio.com/core.html
Thanks, keep an eye out more to come soon!
Heather
http://www.badkittyartstudio.com
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I have to sell one of these works TODAY!
Fairy World Series #0
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