Monday, October 29, 2007

How do you feel about getting paid for the work that you do?



Good Morning.

Everyday over at Zaadz they post a question or blog prompt. I sometimes do them, and always enjoy reading the responses of others. So today this was the question:

How do you feel about getting paid for the work that you do?

This is the off the top of my head response, and then below that a little more thinking about money in general.

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I feel fine about getting paid for my work…both kinds of work that I do. My day job is being an intuitive life coach. Being an intuitive, I have never had a problem with exchanging money for my time and work in the world of spirit. It's a gift I was given at birth…a talent…should I not use it for feeding my family and keeping a roof over my head? Many people have wanted to debate the right and wrongness of my working in this field and accepting money for it. “Selling spirituality” is what some have called it. I see it like any other talent that people are born with or develop in their lives. If I was a singer…I would sing for my supper, a talented doctor…you get the picture. See…I went through a lot of soul searching about this…I was given a talent to see more than the naked eye can see…if I don't use this talent…for what reason was it given to me, and would that be like spitting in the God(s) faces, to not use it? So, I studied and still study to become a great life coach, and I use my intuitive gifts as well. I am good at what I do, really good. I have also learned that people who do not pay for what they get from me, tend to not value (even ignore) the information I share, or want more, more, more of me for free…and then they don't value the messenger (me). I treat each person like I may never speak to them again…give them all I have each time, and I charge money in this reality for my work…and I don't feel even a little bit bad for it.


My other profession (as many know) is an artist. Again a natural gift, and talent…and my passion in this life. I paint to live, and live to paint. I sell my work with no ego attached to price. I mean if someone offers me 5 bucks on a work…and I need 5 bucks…what's the problem? If I can sell my work for more, I do. I never have had any hang-ups about asking to be paid for my work. Why would I? People need money in this reality to stay alive. It's reality; if it changes…well I'll change too. Until then…I don't work for free, as most humans don't. I don't value my human worth or soul on what I give away…I value myself on what I create, what I share, and who I am. So, in short I don't have a problem with getting paid.Oh…by the way…did you need some art?

*Grins*

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Ok, so that covers the question...but it started me thinking about what I feel about money, the making and spending of it and all that jazz.

I was born and raised in the South. And there was a thing that no one really took notice of, but everyone from the richest to the poorest took part in it as a general rule in society. Some people when they needed money, would go door to door and ask to do odd jobs or shop out their particular skill. Some had produce to sell from their back yard gardens, some pushed a lawn mover door to door, some painted houses...ect. It was common place. i lived in a home that bought the produce, and goods...paid the lawn guy, and hired the painters.

No big deal. We neither took notice of this or were any better than anyone else because of it. It was just what was done. If you need something, you better be willing to work for it. Easy really.


Mate man was from one of the families that asked for the job. Same rules applied for them too. No better or worse...could only be worse if you lived off the dole...you know were a lazy drunk or whatever.

So, when I left my home at 16 and learned what it was to not have money and food and a home...it was easy for me to get up, take a look around at what I know how to do, what I had to offer and pick up a rake and go door to door asking to rake leaves, or whatever...wash cars, weed gardens.

When I got sick...and had to live off the dole (welfare)...I only had access to food items and needed more money. So...I made bread dough ornaments at Christmas (for presents for my kid) and sold them door to door. I picked flowers after asking and dried them in corn starch...arranged them...and sold those door to door too.

When I got better and had to really start making all the money needed again...I still was limited so I learned how to make organic cleaners and went out to the street with some flyer's offering to do green cleaning for homes and businesses. It worked. I had a great company for more than 7 years. I added in my landscape skills...and the business grew...I sold off the cleaning and went into landscape design and growing organic foods. I studied and learned from the local library and as the Internet took off I got a bunch of free education from there too.


So...it goes. Mate Man did much the same thing...worked, studied, applied himself and is now very successful in his line of work. A rising star.


So making money is just that right? You go out and you do it. If you don't like what you do then you do something else...go learn what you want to know and then do it.

At least that's what I have done in my life...I do like having money over not having...it makes life easier. Really it does. I just don't need a lot in this life in material goods that is. We live light. If I collect something then it's because of it's value down the line and because I enjoy it. Stuff is just stuff...money now or possibly down the road someday. Stuff is just stuff. I like nice stuff, but it's still just...stuff to load, carry and deal with. If you need to move (which I have also made a life of, being a nomad) you don't need stuff, you need money.

I guess that's about my whole idea on money, it's just money, if I need it I work hard for it. I spend it wisely, I don't have a ton of things and I learned to like wanting.

Again...I make the rules, in my world.

Ahhhh, it's all good.

Knock on wood.

Have a good day,

Heather


8 comments:

BlueJude said...

Quite a resume! lol Yeah the whole money thing sucks. I'm not into materialistic things. Pretty happy to live simple, tho that too can be a hard thing to accomplish at times. Anyhoo, I love the Plague Doctor. Way cool! Hope your off to a happy week!

Kathy Holmes said...

Great point about getting paid for your talent. Isn't that the way it should work? I'm still working on that part. People contact me and ask for tips on finding their own father and then don't buy my book. I enjoy giving of myself but I also expect them to buy the book. Yes it would be fabulous to earn all of my income from my creative writing but I still have to do some corporate writing for real money. :)

Ed Maskevich said...

If you were a charlatan then being paid for your "gifts" would be wrong because it would be based on a lie. To be paid for honest work is not wrong. My doctor has a gift and I pay her for her services. My therapist has a gift and I pay him for his services. You are so right when you talk about others finding value in what you do and say. If others find value and benefit from it then what is wrong with compensation?

HMBT said...

Hi Blue! Glad to see you, hope all is well in your world.

Kathy my friend, you live! You should be paid in truckfulls for what you do!

Ed, so nice of you to stop by, I so enjoy your blog and your work.

Cynthia said...

You have had quite a history.

I have to tell you, I feel very good about the money I make as an artist and fledgling teacher! It took me awhile to get there though.

I used to make a comfortable living as a flight attendant and was maxed out pay wise (union), had a gazillion vacation days, 100% paid health for my family and free travel. If I had a bill coming up, I would pick up an extra trip. Ultimately though, even those things weren't enough to make me happy. I would get the "dread" days before leaving on a trip. Not scary dread, but, a resigned, ugh I have to go to work dread.

I've only replaced my f/a salary by about 1/3 to 1/2 depending on the month (with no benefits) and It feels really great. It feels honest and fills my cup every day. I've had my own issues with money in the past, but for the first time in my life it feels just right.

And you're right we're making our own rules and that rocks!

Pavel said...

Interesting question that I wrestle with often. I appreciate your honest answer and, truthfully, it makes me evaluate my position some.

I've always had trouble asking for money for my talents, whether it be fixing someone's computer or playing music for an event/concert. I absolutely love to do both those things and would gladly do it for free. That is, until I realize I have responsibilities and dreams and hopes, and so do my kids and, we have to all admit, those things aren't free.
So know I charge a decent wage for my work and try my hardest to do well, so that I can feel I've given someone something that they value.
Still, I don't like to ask for money.

HMBT said...

Cynthia,
I know it was hard for me too, when I quit working my landscape company. Mate Man and I made all the money for our family for years with that company.
It was super hard and crazy scary for us to transition into Mate Man working a 9-5 and my health situation making it so that, for a couple of years, I could not work outside the home at all. I started painting just to keep from going crazy. I have always worked from the day day after my 15th birthday...full time plus. I was going bonkers being stuck and sick at home. Art saved my life...and yep we are so much poorer now...but we are also happy again. I get something I never got from running my companies...peace. The first 5 years, I sold a lot of art. The last two years...I've sold a handful of works. It's hard as hell somedays to justify my art carrer. If that's what we are calling it today.
So, yes it rocks, yes it sings of freedom and strife. And Oh yes, I still am dedicated to my art. I think it'll be and is worth it. :)

Pavel,
I used to be afraid to ask for the cash too. I had to learn that it's OK for me to ask for payment, and that really if you think about it...it's the only way to maintain self respect. I mean when I used to just do stuff for people (and it wasn't hard to do running my own company) people didn't respect me as much. they just asked for another freebie. I got walked all over, then spent days or months feeling resentful about it. It was terrible. I started charging money for what I do...then people started listening to me, and valueing my skills as something they didn't have and I didn't feel walked all over...and respected too. Ever since then...I ask for the cash, because it's still uncomfortable...I do it first. Get it over and out of the way. It works well for me. My value isn't in how nice I am. It's in who I am as a person. Not what I give away at my own expense, but what I have to share with people with a whole heart. Dear Pavel...you must ask for the cash! People won't respect your work and will take you for granted...and you will live with the bone eating cancer of resentment. Your worth more than anyone will ever pay you. I'm glad that even though it's hard, to hear that you do ask for the money...that gives me warm fuzzies inside!
Love to you both!!!
Heather

San said...

Nice post, Heather. In the Sixties and Seventies, people would use the term "sell out" a lot. They would be referring to someone who'd attained a measure of financial success, and the term always carried a kind of "sour grapes" aftertaste, as though the speaker was projecting his own disappointment onto the "seller out" in question. When it comes down to it, we alone decide what our work is worth; it's a matter of self-esteem and values, and how much of the stuff (money) we need to buy the things that make us happy. You are so right: "it's just money."

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